The amount of amazing food that came out of her kitchen on a daily basis was insane. Instead of just cooking for herself and my Grandpa she would triple anything that she was preparing and take it to her neighbors or friends so that they had a warm meal. She also taught me how to gamble. At a young age I learned how to play euchre, poker, rummy, and any other game that we could play for quarters. A lot of weekly allowance was won and lost at the table at Grandma and Grandpas. Probably one of the most important lessons that Grandma taught me was how to be kind.
It seems silly, I know, but my Grandma was one of the kindest people I have ever met. When I was growing up and even in my adult life I would go to Grandma with any problem I was having and she would always say the same thing, “Marnee don’t forget kindness brings kindness”. She would teach me not to react to things but instead to show people kindness, regardless of what they did to me or how they made me feel. Obviously as a teenage girl dealing with other teenage girls this didn’t resonate with me as much as it does now.
I find myself always asking what my Grandma would do and I know for a fact that she would tell me to show others kindness. Moreover, while we are helping others, we’re also keeping ourselves busy with positive thoughts and actions that distract us from the general undercurrent of negativity and fear, replacing it with kindness, goodness, and gratitude, something that we all need at any time, but especially during this time. So with all of that being said please see a quick list below of some things that we can do now to show kindness to others.
1. Stay in touch
No time before in history has it been as simple to stay connected with people in real time. Whether you're Skyping, Tweeting, using WhatsApp, FaceTime or Google Hangouts, or just talking on the phone, you can share news, offer encouragement, and give others the feeling they are not alone and that you are thinking of them.
2. Offer to bring groceries or run errands
Offer to bring things to people’s homes - groceries, games, puzzles, inspirational books or reading material, drop off or pick up packages at the post office, or anything else they might need—and leave it outside their door.
3. Send a letter or a card
Send your quarantined acquaintance a funny card or start writing letters to family members or friends. Yes…… real letters…… that require stamps. You can also send funny jokes, short insights, interesting stories, or inspirational videos. Another great idea is to write thank you cards to essential personnel.
4. Bring someone a meal
Bake a cake, bring a home-cooked meal or a special treat from a store that you know they love. Leave it outside their door, then call them and say, “Dinner is served.”
5. Help them reframe with positive thinking
Help them reframe and focus on the positive aspects of being in the home more. They get a rest. They have time to devote to projects they’ve been neglecting. They can spend time with family members that are home with them. Moreover, the whole idea of quarantine is to try and keep as many people healthy as possible, so whoever is subjected to this hiatus from regular life is actually helping keep others stay healthy.
Remember, kindness brings kindness. Hang in there!!